Engagement period 4: Engaged the world’s way or God’s way?
A couple fall in love. They get engaged. And then, in the heat of the moment, engulfed by romantic love and passion, they make love. This is an expression of lust. Lust is an emotion that interprets the feelings of love as an act of self-focused gratification. I want to own you, to possess your body. The result is premarital sexual activity. What is the long-term outcome of lust? Many young adults cycle between cohabiting partners in the search for lifelong marital partners. This may represent a form of intensive dating that ultimately leads to marriage, perhaps after living with several...
Read MoreEngagement period 3: dealing with love and desire
So – you are ‘in love’. Got that in-the-clouds feeling of wanting to see, do things with, make love to—just be with—your beloved? That burst of energy when you see her. That heart-palpitating, pupil-dilating feeling when he walks into the room. You are fearless; you would do anything, say anything, and fight any battle for your loved one. Your beloved is perfect, faultless, precious … angelic. This is romantic love, or as the scientists call it ‘Limerance’. And they are the result of changes in your brain that make you focus your energy on one person. You are motivated to pursue this...
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